What Makes A Point Erogenous?

Sex is vital for our physical and mental wellbeing. An erogenous zone is a body part that stimulates sexual response during sexual foreplay. Quality of sex is linked to sexual arousal, where erogenous spots come to the scene. Erogenous spots are present in both male and female bodies. Most men think genitals and breasts are the only female arousal triggers, but many female hot spots are present in women.

Is there a formula for pleasing women? Sexually inexperienced men should know where to find the female arousal triggers while making love with their partners. Furthermore, a man should try to find out the pleasure zones of his partner because sexual response varies from person to person. Creating a personal arousal map and discovering and exploring new erogenous zones are crucial for satisfying sex life.

Is there a link between sexual arousal and desire? Why is sexual arousal necessary? Here’s a study[1] that reviews how men and women try to define sexual desire and arousal. Sexual desire is a complex thing and has a close link with sexual arousal. While the desire may be physical, the arousal may be a mental thing. Here, we will talk about the hottest female erogenous zones, which one can make the most fulfilling sex.

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The 10 Best Female Erogenous Spots To Drive Her Wild

1. Scalp

Though we hardly count the scalp as one of the female erogenous zones, the scalp is chock-full of nerve endings that make it one of the body’s most sensitive parts. Therefore, a thorough scalp massage can lower stress, anxiety, back pain, and neck pain and send tingles down your partner’s body.

A sensual scalp massage after a hectic day can lead to a steamy bedroom session in no time. If your partner happens to be an Aries, pulling hair during sex can heighten her sexual pleasure.

2. The Ears

When it comes to stimulating her erogenous zones, can you neglect the ears? The ears contain a considerable number of nerve endings that send pleasurable responses to the brain. Women get aroused when their ears are sucked, licked, and kissed.

During foreplay, kissing and sucking her ear and earlobes will send sexual energies throughout her body. You can start by tracing the C of her ear with your fingertips or tongue. Some sex experts suggest tongue-to-ear penetration but if your partner does not like it, stick to kisses and niblings. Whispering into her ears will also amp up the sensation.

3. Lips

Women consider lips as one of the highly erogenous zones. Lips are sensitive to touches and contain a massive number of nerve endings. Kissing and being kissed is one of the decisive factors determining the sexual chemistry between you and your partner. Kisses help develop emotional intimacy between the partners.

A study[2] shows that kissing may play a vital role in mate assessment and relationship maintenance. A kiss involves exchanging visual, tactile, postural, and chemical information between two mating partners. A passionate kiss triggers the release of dopamine and oxytocin – the feel-good hormones that reduce stress and is essential for a love-making sesh.

4. The Breasts

Ready to give some nipplegasm to your partner? Turn your attention to the breast. The breasts rank high among the extragenital female erogenous zones. A study[3] indicates that stimulation of breasts, areola, and nipples activates the same physical and chemical response in the brain as vaginal or clitoral stimulation does.

Nipple stimulation triggers the release of feel-good hormones and may give your partner the same intense feeling as an orgasm. The nipples are packed with nerve endings that make them super sensitive to touches that heighten pleasure.

One study[4] shows that nipple stimulation enhances sexual arousal in both women and men, and women leading. The sensitivity level is the highest in nipples, then the areolas, and lastly, the breasts. So making out with the nipples is a great way to stimulate them. Kiss, suck, nibble, and bite her nipples, but be gentle and careful. She will love all the attention you shower on her breasts.

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5. Neck

Hickeys on the neck, we have seen them a lot, indicating how women love being touched, kissed, and bitten on the neck and the surrounding areas. Neck has a long association with beauty and eroticism, making it a hot spot for triggering sexual pleasures.

In many surveys, the neck has been mentioned as an erogenous zone that can boost sexual arousal in women. The neck is a sensitive area with loads of nerve endings. The skin in this area is fragile, and a light touch can give her a tingle and pleasure. Brushing your lips across the nape of her neck will elicit pleasurable moans.

6. Lower Back

The lower back features prominently on many women’s erogenous zones roadmap. Have you ever considered giving your partner a sensual back massage? The lower back has many nerves that branch out from the spinal cord; some nerves are connected to the pelvis area.

The small of the back is incredibly sensitive and a pleasure hot spot for many women. A soft massage on the lower back increases blood flow to the entire area and boosts its sensitivity. Rubbing this area after a stressful day will help build pleasure for her.

7. The Lower Stomach / Abdomen

If the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, it could also be the way to a woman’s vagina. So next time you make love with your partner, don’t forget to stimulate her lower abdomen areas for creating high levels of pleasure. Neuroscientists explain there’s a link between our brain and belly.

When a person feels excited, a nerve activates the gut and causes a fluttering sensation. Lustful excitements can trigger sexual arousal in women in the abdomen area, specifically the belly button and the pubic area. What makes this area an erotic hotspot? The belly is close to the vagina. It is also linked to the vagina by a network of nerves. Stimulating this area will also stimulate the surrounding erogenous areas with increased blood flow.

8. The Inner Thighs

Ask women about the hottest female arousal triggers, and the inner thigh will make it to the list. Inner thighs are super close to the genitals and sexy spots with lots of nerve endings.

The soft, fleshy inner thighs are incredibly erotic to touch. Gently stroking this area will increase blood flow to the genital area, increasing her arousal. If your partner likes it, you can up the arousal quotient with kissing and licking.

9. The G-Spot

G-spot in women is an erogenous spot for enhanced sensation if you can find it. Yes, though it is there, many men fail to locate this as it is located inches inside the vagina. Try to find it on the upper palate of your partner’s vagina when she is fully aroused.

When your partner is fully aroused, the erectile tissue in the urethral sponge swells with blood flow. The G-spot becomes larger and puffier, making it easy for you to find and stimulate it. You can use your fingers, or G-spot sex toys, or your penis to stimulate it. Stimulation of the G-spot may lead to intense sexual arousal in women and help them orgasm.

10. The Clitoris

If we talk about erogenous spots that trigger sexual arousal in women, the clitoris can’t be left out. Clitoral stimulation is the fastest and the surest way to orgasm. The small piece of flesh resembles an upside-down flower and contains over ten thousand nerve endings. When aroused, it may have an erection.

While stimulating the clitoris, men need to be gentle because the area is super-sensitive and may cause pain to your partner if you charge hard. Using a fingertip to gently massage the area around the clit is suggested. Stimulating the clit with your tongue and your mouth will give your partner some intense pleasure. You can use a sex toy to stimulate the clitoris.

You Know Where She Wants To Be Touched, Now What?

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Exploring and stimulating the female erogenous zones can enhance sexual pleasure for both of you and make your sex life exciting and playful. Like pleasure spots vary from woman to woman, so do the ways to excite them.

Your partner can enjoy all the stroking, kissing, sucking, and nibbling you bring to the game or may like specific ways. The trick is to find out what she enjoys most between the sheets.

Perfecting the kissing technique to please your partner can heighten the sensual pleasure for both of you. It is imperative to start with a fresh, clean breath. Kissing is the best way to stimulate lips, earlobes, nape of the neck, breast, nipples – in fact, everywhere she wants to be kissed. Ask her what she likes and what she wants.

Start with a gentle kiss and slowly switch to light nibbling for increasing pleasure and ecstasy. Also, use your tongue to tease your partner while kissing her passionately. Kissing the nape of her neck will give her goosebumps, and kissing her earlobes will make her go crazy with sexual desire.

Give Her Primal Pleasure with Nibbling

Many women like it primal and rough when they are sexually aroused. Nibbling may cause intense sexual desire, pleasure, and euphoria and is an accepted foreplay act. Where can you nibble? Earlobes are perfect zones where you can nibble. Earlobes contain plenty of nerve endings, and gentle nibbling sends tingles throughout your partner’s body and heightens sexual arousal.

Another place is the lips. Stimulate her lips with different caressing and nibbling variations, track her response to find out which elicits the best sexual response, and treat her with that. Breast and nipples are two incredibly erotic zones, but they are also super-sensitive. However, light nibbles on her breasts will stimulate them for increased sexual pleasure if your partner likes and wants.

Make It Fun and Exciting with Sex Toys

Make It Fun and Exciting
When it comes to sexual stimulation, using sex toys is one way to ensure sexual arousal in women. Sex toys are handy for couples who love to experiment a lot in the bedroom or need external stimulation for boosting sexual arousal.

A dizzying variety of sleek sex toys can take your bedroom game to the next level. Flexible vibrators, G-spot stimulators, butt plugs – you can use all of these to create a new level of intimacy that is fun yet may ignite intense sexual arousal in women. For example, using a vibrator with varying speeds, women can achieve intense and faster orgasm.

Stimulate Her Clitoris With Mind-blowing Oral Sex

Honing your oral sex skill will make your partner happy. Oral sex is unbeatable for clit stimulation and achieving orgasm. Ways to perfect oral sex skill include:

Use of sex toys: Sex toys can enhance sexual pleasure while stimulating her clit, one of the female erogenous zones. Try a finger vibrator as you reach for her G-spot.

Use of blindfold: Add some suspense to the game while giving her mind-blowing oral sex by blindfolding her. Blindfolding heightens anticipations and erogenous zones, specifically the clitoral spots, could become more sensitive. Stimulate the vulva and labia with a vibrator or using your tongue for intense pleasure.

Use your tongue: Don’t limit the attention to the genitals only. Licking and sucking the female erogenous zones using your tongue will turn her on like never before.


A satisfying session in the bedroom has multiple benefits. Apart from physical pleasure, regular sex can improve cardiovascular health, lower blood pressure, reduce stress, improve sleep, and burn calories. However, it is crucial to keep the newness and excitement alive by trying new positions, and techniques.

Sex should not be a routine. It is essential to keep the romance and passion alive in the bedroom. Both partners need to know what they want from sex, their particular turn-ons, and turn-offs, and how they can go beyond the predictable. While erogenous zones may heighten sexual pleasure, the best sex comes from the brain.

Thinking of new ways to please your partner, exploring different techniques, staying mindful while making love will help you enjoy great sex. If your partner loses interest in sex, try to address the reason for low sexual desire. Try to increase her self-confidence, focus on emotional security and trust.